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I met my husband when I was about 27, couple of years later, we got married and moved to the countryside. After living in cities filled with constant noise and people from all ages and walks of life, it felt eerily quiet living around vast fields and woodlands.  As I adjusted to living among greenery and tall trees, life threw all sorts of curveballs in terms of marriage, career, and friendships. The natural progression from marriage was to have children. The universe had another route for us as we had to start IVF treatment.
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Despite the looming stress of IVF, we managed to stay positive and embrace the unknown. The IVF journey is like an emotional rollercoaster, filled with uncertainty; both physical and emotional challenges. About 12 years ago, neither my husband nor I were offered any support; it was a 'hushed' matter. Those of us who have experienced IVF understand the depth of the highs and lows involved. When the little seed is planted, the exhilaration of new growth is indescribable. However, when a seed is denied the chance to grow, the weight of our heartbreak is immense. Yes, it’s a testament to our love, resilience, and strength; we cried, hugged each other, and started the next round. While some of us are fortunate to have a child following IVF treatment, not all of us are blessed with the same outcome. We fall into the latter category. For us, fate had a different course.
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In the heady years of dating, we talked about adopting a child. Little did we know this would come true many years later. Adoption weaves together threads of love, hope, and resilience into a unique tapestry. After the approval, there was another long wait to be matched with children which took almost 6 months. I proactively searched, researched and called agencies beyond our county for children that best suited for us and vice versa. In 2014 we finally were matched with a pair of siblings who are now teenagers!
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Adoption indeed requires a lot of dedication and resilience. The phrase "not for the faint hearted" perfectly captures the intensity of the experience. The idea of needing "superhuman" qualities highlights the numerous challenges and responsibilities that come with it. We  had to embody patience, compassion, and be resourceful to navigate the complexities of raising our adopted children.  We have to build trust, provide emotional support, and help our children heal from past traumas while fostering a loving and stable environment.
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This is a lifelong commitment of selflessness and strength to embrace and nurture these "little people." It makes us question our own integrity, often hide our emotions and be curious to explore the different facets of trauma and triggers. Alongside that, we have to ponder question how we were brought up, learn the different styles of parenting, accept that our children will be misunderstood and be ready for the backlash of all sorts!
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My words paint a vivid picture of the realities of adoption, acknowledging both the challenges and the profound rewards. It's a journey that demands empathy, adaptability, and an open heart. If there's anything specific you'd like to explore further or any other aspect you would like to discuss, feel free to reach out.
 
I'm here to listen and support you.